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Quarter-life Crisis

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going
along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of
things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like. You start
feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but
then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start
realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that
you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest people
you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of
the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are
realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or
insincere, but that they are as confused as you are.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you
would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you
are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the
comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on
a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren’t so
great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not
want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are
doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly
you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add
things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are
insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of
your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is
the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon
realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there
is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do
such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can’t meet
anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe
love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this
because you are not a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups
start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts
to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over
and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you
cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for
yourself and while winning the race would be great,  right now you’d
just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone
reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst
of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

We are making a  lot of mistakes, but helping one another learn from
them and reaching out to pull one another up. We are not the shiniest
group of people, but we are very much a circle. We are there for one
another and will listen and grow for the rest of our lives. We will
piss one another off, but we will also heal one another’s hearts. We
are the group who sometimes doesn’t need words but will laugh at the
end of a conversation that started with angry words. We are friends
and in 10 years, when we have figured out where we fit in this world,
we will still be friends always and forever!